Things to Know About AdoptionGulf Coast Healthy Living Magazine Volume 5, Issue 3 - Lakeview Center
10 Things to Know About Adoption
November 30 is a very special day for Ashlie Relyea. It’s not her birthday. Not graduation day. It’s the day she was adopted in 2015. Ashlie had been shuffled from foster home to foster home since she was 9 years old. Today, she’s an articulate 15-year-old young lady who is with a forever family where she can finally relax and not worry about “doing it all alone.” “Today I have reassurance that I’m doing OK, and I feel good about my future,” said Ashlie.
Ashlie speaks for her foster and adoptive peers sharing 10 helpful considerations for parents who are considering adoption:
If you’re interested in adopting a child who’s 6 to 9 years old, but learn of a child who’s 10 or 11 years old, keep an open mind about the age. Get to know them. Older kids like me age out sooner, and we want a permanent home with a good family before we get out on our own.
Don't forget to tell us we matter.
A lot of us don’t feel like we’re important because we’re in foster care for so long thinking we’re unwanted.
Personal space and pets help.
Dogs, other pets and personal space make us feel comfortable in our new permanent homes. Foster homes can be crowded and sometimes you have to share space. We also know that we’ll leave pets we bonded with one day. In a permanent home, we can have those things!